Obsession, because you want to let the past be the past, but only after your own morbidly detailed investigation — and because you stubbornly refuse to be rejected and overlooked for the purity which you’ve guarded so diligently.
The reflex reaction of the insecure is to quantify oneself, especially physically: to rush to numbers for security, to resort to inches to feel worthy, to run to the scale to feel loveable.
"I suspected that this man wasn't over his marriage, which made sense -- after all, he wasn't even divorced yet," she says.
From Hiroshima to the Iceman : The Development and Applications of Accelerator Mass Spectrometry. The one who has his or her own sexual history faces their own challenges.The twin emotions of judged when you feel the weight of your partner’s regret and struggle to process what their sins mean for you.Here are six truths to help still your heart, quiet the lies, and proceed with compassionate caution and wisdom in a relationship with someone who has a sexual history. Whether you measure up to anyone else or not, if you buy into the lie that love should be quantified, you destroy real intimacy.When you measure your lovability by trying to quantify your sexuality, you diminish your humanity.A Dutch study this year showed that reduces one's chances of having a new, successful relationship -- slightly more for women than for men. It's no wonder newly dating divorcees may be hesitant to mention the details.